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Robert, a 19-year-old young man, asks for help following the sudden death of his father from pancreatic cancer. He is at university in a town 100 miles from the family home. His father had been unwell for several months but was only diagnosed 3 weeks ago following extensive test. The family knew that the diagnosis was not good but hoped that with treatment he would live for several months, so Robert was encouraged to go back to college after the summer break.
Robert had a phone call to say that his father had been admitted to hospital as an emergency and died soon afterwards. Robert had gone straight home and stayed for 2 weeks and attended the funeral. He did not see his father before the funeral and he felt that he was not included in the arrangements. This was his first week back at the university. He is also worried because he is behind with his work.
Robert is the youngest of three boys. His brothers are a good deal older and have left home. He was not close to his father and chose the university because it was a long way from home. His father once said that he wished Robert had been a girl and Robert always felt a disappointment but now wants to go home and give up his course. He says that he is very worried about his mother, as she is at home on her own.
Robert was happy at the university and has some close male friends. However, his girlfriend who he had met at the beginning of his course had ended the relationship during the summer holidays. He says that nobody wants to listen to him when he talks about his father. They tell him that he should be glad, as he was always moaning about him. He wants to tell his ex-girlfriend but fears rejection.
1. What are the bereavement risks for this young man?
2.Is his college work likely to suffer because of his bereavement?
3. Could Robert still think that his father is alive?
4. We know that Robert felt excluded from the funeral arrangements. Do you think that this often happens and is it important for young people to feel included?
5. Robert was not close to his father and Robert has already said that he was a disappointment to his father. Is it important for Robert to spend time talking and thinking about what this relationship meant to him?
6. Robert is asking for help but it is early days. What do you think he wants to talk about?
7. What sort of feelings might he be experiencing? Could he be feeling very desperate?
8. Do you think that Robert should be seen by a counsellor?